Hi!

Just an introduction... I live in California with Lee, my BF, which sounds ridiculous since we are far from being in high school. Lee and I love, live, and work together. This is not too much time together; I would spend more time with him if I could! I am very happy being the submissive in our relationship.
I have always battled with my need to be dominated. At the time I came into my adulthood, women were being told that they should go to college, get a career, and get out into the workforce. Women were expected to be in control of themselves and their careers. Men were your equal, and in NO way should you ever even think of letting yourself be controlled or dominated by any man for ANY reason.
I grew up in a very normal, nuclear family, with a father who worked and a mother who stayed home. My mother's frustration with her life (she wanted a career and family, my father was not supportive of her need to work outside the home)imprinted itself on me. I was confused by the notion that my need to be submissive meant there was something wrong with me.
What I was not supposed to want was a relationship in which the man in my life was the dominant partner in the relationship. I was not supposed to need to be punished for my bratty behavior and flirtatiousness. It was wrong to want to be treated like a princess, and being tossed over a knee and spanked was inconceiveable.
Yes, I am independent and intelligent. At work I have many responsibilites and am perceived as being opinionated, outgoing, and cunty at times. I have no problem speaking up for myself, or stating my position on any topic. I don't like to have to answer to people when I know I am right. I can be stubborn and rude.
However, I still need for Lee to assert his Dominance over me... sexually, physically and emotionally. More on this later...
I don't see why I can't be both, and it has taken me a long time to figure this out!